I was all of 22 when I realized the power of validation
Bruised
Battered
And weary
I desperately needed
Someone to tell me it was not my fault
That ‘bad’ things do in fact happen to ‘good’ people
That I was beautiful just the way I was
Maybe even ‘too good’ for him?
But most importantly
That he had hurt me the way I said he had
And that’s the essence of validation
To a young woman, abused child or broken adult
Just to know that you are being heard, understood, and believed
To know that there is someone who says I empathize with you
It must have been tough
You have been strong
I am proud of you
To have someone say Go on I’m listening
I will not judge you
Hurt you
Or laugh
I will not minimize your pain
Tell it to go away, disappear
In stead
I will live it through with you
Each moment
Till we both heal
I will not tell you that there are bigger things in life to cry over
I will in fact tell you that your pain will help you grow
I will not tell you to let the past be..forget it..move on
I will in fact remind you of the goodness of your heart, joy in your
soul, and the deep love you have within.
Too often in life we are very quick to judge
Rarely are we quick enough to reach out
To empathize
Hold a hand
Give a hug
Share a smile
It is only when we believe in the power of validation
That we can transform lives
And it is then that I believe
that
Miracles do happen
